8 Takes of my Weekend

1. Friday night was date night.  Kind of last minute plans.  Good plans.  We ate at PF Changs.  I had a coupla Mai Tais and may have gotten tipsy.  I may have also sang Rihanna's S&M at the top of my lungs in the van.  And said, "Go, Team!" to the barista at Starbucks in the drive-thru when we ordered coffee so I could be sober for Target.  Oh, that Target on that Friday night.

He's pretty much a whole lot of hottness.

2.  Date night turned into Date Morning and Josh and I were able to ride with our friends on Saturday morning.  It was a grueling 40 mile ride.  There were times I'd fall off from the pack, they'd have to slow down and wait for me and then times when I'd power through on the hills and be up with the cool kids. I almost puked a coupla times.  I haven't been that worn out from a ride since our 90 miler back in July.  In 9 days I've ridden 135 miles.

Thankful he puts up w/my self-portraits.

3.  Last minute decision to Spring Barrel with my sister and Tracy was a hoot.

we're a good time, this sister and me.

i love that i look tall. for once. thank you, shoes.

yes, i have a sticker on my head. no, that's not our limo.

4.  I got to hold a 3 week old baby.  Oh my womb.  

5. I went to Body Flow yesterday for the first time in two weeks.  Totally sucked.  My abs were like, "haha, SUCKER."  

6.  I rode my bike to Body Flow and while I was on my way there I got "woo hoo'd!!!"  By my sister-in-law.  I'd take that over the creeps who often hang out their window to whistle.  Seriously, guys.  SERIOUSLY.

7.  Oh, Seven.  Or 37, which is my fave number.  After 63.  Hey, I had to throw some random into a weekend post.

8.  I saw several motorcycles at Starbucks yesterday (I stopped there on my bike) and one guy had the nerve to say, "I bet you haven't ridden as far as I have today."  And I said, "I bet you haven't burned as many calories as I have."  To which he had no reply.  TAKE THAT.

the post where i could be snarky but choose not to be

I am feeling so snarky right now.  Which is my way of self-preservation.

I don't even know where to begin and since it probably wouldn't be pretty, I'm going to choose NOT to begin. I'll keep my snark to myself.

Others should follow suit.

It's raining and fabulous.  I opened up a window in my bedroom last night and fell asleep to the sound of rain.  And woke up the very same way.

It's like the rain gets me.  Knows when I need the refreshment.  The soothing.

My hair is hi-lighted and that makes me happy.  I did some painting for my in-laws on Saturday and thought I had gotten paint in my hair.  Nope.  It was just grey hair.  But it's covered now.

Btw:  I prefer "grey" to "gray" in case you were wondering.  And in case you weren't.

I rode my bike to the salon yesterday.

I've put 80 miles on my bike since Saturday and have lost three pounds as a result.  I have a pair of spandex my in-laws bought me for Christmas that are a size XS.  Working my butt off to fit into them.  I mean, I fit into them, I'd just prefer a little less muffin topness going on.

This line was typed.  Then deleted.  Realized it woulda been taken all wrong and well, I've had just about enough of that.

Sugar has a soccer game tonight.  I almost feel bad for the other teams she plays.  Sugar's soccer coach is very serious about soccer and our team wins every time.  By a lot.  Not that I keep score because you aren't supposed to keep score but we do.  We win.  And last week the opposing team's coach called the game at the half and said it was due to rain but I believe it was due to the 13-1 lead we had.  But what do I know?

Looking forward to Saturday.  Looking forward to being able to ride with Josh.  Mostly looking forward to kicking his butt.  He's so much stronger of a rider than I am but he hasn't been out to really ride in awhile so I'm hoping to stand half a chance this weekend.

Josh and I watched some home video of the girls from about three years ago.  Oh my word.  Sugar was making us laugh so hard.  She talks non-stop.  She's always happy.  She's just so her.  Then there's Spice.  Oh, Spice.  She's crying in most of the video we have of her.  She's just so her. :)  There was also video of me.  With an extra 30ish lbs.  Wow.  That was weird to see.  How did I let myself be like that for so long?  It was a miserable five years.

I'm behind on laundry.

We have a long-ish driveway and occasionally Sugar wants to have the car stopped at the bottom and run to the house.  Last night, in the rain, this is what she wanted.  I decided to run with her.  She got a bit of a head start and I never was able to catch up with her.  I'd like to blame it on my flip flops, the rain, my bad knee, and the fact that I kept having to pull up my jeans but what it boils down to is that kid has some wheels.

Okay, it's time to get my day going.  Totally patting myself on the back for keeping my snark to myself.

Happy Thursday, Friends!

the weekend i didn't go camping and the bunny story

I started my morning fairly early and I'm on the phone with Josh and I'm looking out my bedroom window and I see Clifford.  My cat.  Well, the family cat.  And he's out in the garden area and he's being very un-Clifford like and rolling all over the ground.  Clifford doesn't do that.  Then I realize why he's being a moron.

He has a bunny.

So I go traipsing out there in my jammies and my slippers and I inform him that he WILL NOT be harming this baby bunny.  I pick him up and he is pissed.  He's the most laid back cat we've ever owned but right now he's ticked that I am taking him away from his baby bunny.

I haul him back in the house and not two minutes later, Clifford, Ruby (our other cat) and Ace (our Beagle) are all making a bee-line for the bunny.  I grab two cats by the scruffs of their necks and they are hissing and kicking and fur is flying and I'm sure the neighbors are wondering what the crap is going on.  Bunny goes into hiding.  All is well.

Sugar comes in the house and informs me that she has put the bunny in the tree so that Ace will not get it.  I tell her the bunny could die if he hops out of the tree.  And she announces: "Oh, he's already dead."  My smart girl had put on gloves and everything.  I go out and sure enough there's a dead bunny in my tree.

So I put on gloves and I grabbed a shovel and I buried that cute little bunny in my backyard.  I teared up and my six year old is like, "Wow, that's sad.  Can I have a snack?"

That was my morning.

My weekend went like this:

Saturday I got up and headed down to Doc's office where we meet to ride our road bikes.  I went alone because Josh took our girls on a hiking/camping trip.  I rode 30 awesome miles with them.  Doc taught me how to stand while continuing to pedal uphill.  This probably sounds like something that's easy to do but remember, I'm the girl who can't drink from her water bottle and ride at the same time.

So he teaches me how to do this and bam I take off.  They're yelling at me that I'm supposed to maintain my speed not speed up.  Yeah, there's no way I'm going to go slow up a hill if I can go fast.  I'm not wired like that.  In the process of doing the rollers the new way (standing) I sailed through them and didn't vomit the way I've done previously.

And when we were done with our ride I was so pumped I very nearly just kept on riding.  Instead I went home to shower.  In an empty house and that is so very weird to shower without someone opening up the shower curtain and yelling, "Mama!  What's for breakfast?!"  I was able to shave both legs and both armpits.

I went up to my in-laws for a while to do some work for them.  Got so dirty I had to come home and shower again.  And then I got back on my bike for another 20 miles for a total of 50 miles on Saturday!  I asked a friend to ride with me but he wussed out declined.  Maybe because I told him he could ride my back wheel I gave the impression that I was going to kick his butt.  Which I totally woulda.

I rode my bike to my aunt's house in Gview.  This is an aunt on my dad's side of the family.  The side of my family I'm not nearly as comfortable with or know as well but love dearly.  However, I walk in the house then out to the backyard and when I see how many of my family members are out there I walk right back in the house and have a sit down.  Holy lots of family.  I had to take a breather.  Give myself a pep talk and proceed to the backyard.  Where I discussed tattoos, dreadlocks, nose piercings, and giving birth with my cousin.  All things I love.

And then I announced I was riding my bike home and my uncle tried to give me a ride but I said no.  On my way home I get a text from a friend and am invited to sports bar/casino and it's on my way home and a beer sounds fantastic! but I politely decline and I'd like to say I declined because of my attire (biking skirt, tank top, sweaty face) but really it's because I've never been in there and I don't go into places alone that I've never been.  I get this weird anxiety deal and I wish I could explain it but it just boils down to possibly needing more therapy.

Then I went home, showered for a third time.

This entire time I cannot get in touch with my husband because there is no cell service where he is and my mind is going crazy thinking they've been eaten by bears and why oh why did I not just go with them?!

I was asked why I didn't go with them.  I told him there were two reasons.  The first is that after the family camping trip from hell in August, Josh told me I never had to camp again.  I fully intend to hold him to this for the duration of our marriage, however long that may be.  And secondly, I homeschool my kids.  I am here pretty much 24/7.  I am with them allthetime.  They can have 36 hours with their daddy.  It is good for them and it is good for me.

I'm done feeling guilty about that.  Even Josh told me there was no reason for me to feel guilty for not going.

After I explained my reasons my friend understood.

My kids had a blast and they brought home 14 minutes of video for me to watch.  It was adorable and I can't wait to watch it 10 years from now.

I also can't wait to not go camping again.  I'm so good at it.

The mixed emotions of a SAHM {type without deleting: post two}

Last year about this time I wrote a post about not being glamorous.  How I used to have a job I was good at.  A job where I felt adequate.

And then I became a mama.

And now I feel anything but glamorous.  Or adequate.

Maybe it's this time of year that makes me feel like this because I'm feeling it again.  This ants in my pants feeling.

I want a paycheck.  And awards (even if the award says, Most Likely to Provide Comic Relief) and customers and co-workers.  I want someone to see this good hair day.  I want to wear high heels for something other than vacuuming.

I want to not sit here thinking how one (or more) of you are shaking your head at me.  I will post this no matter what.  I will not delete it no matter what.

I know how petty all of this makes me sound.  I know how ungrateful it makes me sound.  But we all have these seasons, right?  Where we're just kinda fed up with life and ourselves?

No?  Just me?

My bad then.

One day last week the weather was decent and school was over and the girls were playing happily outside.  Giggling and chasing each other and finding bugs and getting dirt under their fingernails.  It was 11 am.  "Normal" children would have been in school and not with their mama.  They would have been seated at desks and I would not have heard their laughter.

And I sat there watching them and thinking, "this is the freaking hardest thing I do on a daily basis, but my God, I would not change it.  I would not want any other life than this one I've been afforded."

So yes, I bitch.  I moan and I groan.  And I tell you how I suck at this mom gig.  That is not a gig at all but my life.  I love my life.  I have good days.  I have good weeks.  And I take my kids to the park and I push them on the swing and I kiss owies and I make pancakes and I tousle their hair as I pass by them.

I give out hugs and kisses and I read books.

And I let out a huge sigh of relief when I shut out their light for the night.

I put my bare feet up on my husband's lap and we look at each other and he smiles that knowing smile.  Because the day is done and we made it.  We survived it.  We lived it and loved it.

Even if it was not easy.  Even if there were tears and screaming (and not just from the kids).

And tomorrow a new day will begin.  And what I feel is so mundane may just be mundane, but it's my life and I'm living it.

And I'm having a love/hate relationship with it.

But I am living it.  I won't let it pass me by.  I won't wish it away.  I may let myself dream of it being different on occasion but it's where I am.  Where God has me.

And it's GOOD.

The Ball {type without deleting: post one}

I am not someone who can easily highlight my successes.  Partly because they are so few and far between and partly because it's just not me to say, "yay, me! look what I did awesome!"

However.

I rock at showcasing what I suck at.

Today and many days it's mothering.

I've just sent my children down for naps with tears running down their dirty, little faces.

They were fighting over a stupid ball.  So I did the really mature thing and I opened up the sliding glass door and chucked the ball outside.

There.  Now no one can play with it.

And the tears and the screaming.

Oh the tears.

Over an effing ball.

It's close enough to nap time anyway so I just sent them to bed.  I've taken the easy hard way out.  Easy because I'm not dealing with the situation.  Hard because...I'm not dealing with the situation.

Or the attitudes.

Or their hearts.

Or my attitude.

Or my heart.

Instead, stuff the issue in a bedroom, shut the door and.. and sit here feeling like anyone but me deserves to mother these kiddos.

*this post in an effort to, for one week, type without deleting as i have been double dog dared by my friend, Sara, to do.

wednesday fluff of stuff

left knee is killing me lately during my bike rides.

found a new love via Downton Abbey on Netflix.

having a fantastic school week.

spice is sitting at the table for the two hours of school.  part of last week and all of this week so far.

sugar is learning about King Tut, syllables, pronouns, and addition repetition.

i completed all six items on my to do list monday.  the only time i sat down was when i got on my bike to ride to the gym.

i worked out for three hours straight on monday.

i took a 40 minute nap yesterday.  i never do that.  ever ever.  it felt great.  today i took a 20 minute nap.  what is up?

josh's alarm was set for 3 a.m.

spice wore two different colored flip flops to the grocery store yesterday.  she has a purple pair and a pink pair.  she wanted to wear the purple pair but could only find one.  so instead of just wearing the pink pair she chose one of the pink flips and the single purple.  i love her lack of sense of style.

someone i follow on Twitter posted this yesterday, "what we want isn't always what's best for us."  how true is THAT?

true in my life.

my baby sister will be 26 on saturday.  how did she get to be that old?  i loved 26.  life was simpler.  amazing how a few years can change so much.

but don't take me back to 23.  *shudder*  you couldn't pay me enough to go back to that.  or age 9.  or age 13.

i put my debit card and checkbook on the counter over a week ago to keep me from spending money.  i've had a little cash in my wallet and have used that for a few groceries.

i nearly poked my eye out at dinner last night.  we had dinner at Candee's house and i threw my hand down on a fork and it flew at my face.  i'm really good at making a dork of myself.  so glad she loves me anyway.

sugar asked me today what spring break was and why the neighbors weren't at school.  we aren't doing spring break.  or summer break.

i had a corndog, jojos, a pepsi, fry sauce and a peanut butter snickers for lunch yesterday

my cyclometer on my bike reads 1,100 miles.  Hoping I'll hit 2,000 by the end of summer.

i have a headache today.

i love spring.

yes, it's windy.  yes, it's rainy.  but it's spring.  and spring brings summer.

Slowin' me down

I'm thankful.

For the people in my life who tell me like it is.

Telling me stuff I don't necessarily want to hear but need to hear.

Whether it's my outfit, a character trait, something I've said or something I've done.

Trying to take in the constructive criticism and look at it as constructive instead of hurtful.  Trying not to get defensive and instead reflective.

I'm a recovering people pleaser.  Maybe I'm not in recovery at all.  Maybe I'm still just in people pleasing mode.

Honestly, sometimes I just wanna say screw it to everyone and not care about my words or actions or the things about me that need growth.  I'm such a selfish girl.

Instead, I probably go too far the other way and just worry about offending anyone that I try to please everyone.  And in the end it doesn't matter. 

I still disappoint people.

Ugh, it's not working out for me at all.

So I've decided to try to be a little less impulsive.  With words and actions.  Think things through a little more before I say or do them.  Kinda goes against all of me.  I'm quick to talk.  Quick to say yes over no.  Quick to act.  And so often I regret a lot of what I've said or done but you can't take things back, can you?  At least not without hurting someone usually.

You learn more by listening than you do by talking.  It's time for me to shush up a bit more.  I have much to learn.

Thank you to my friends and family who love me in spite of me.

I've spent my 31 years being pretty impulsive with actions and speech, I don't expect to perfect slowing myself down immediately.  But I am resolving to work on it.  Work on me.

Another move out of my comfort zone

I've been going to the gym for over a year.

I remember in the days leading up to my first time entering those doors, I was sick to my stomach.  So worried people would stare at me.  Laughing at the fat girl.

It wasn't until I'd been there awhile that I realized all these fit men and women may have previously been "the fat girl" or guy.  But, like me, they were doing something about it.  There are some people, like my husband, who are just thin.  Yet he'd be the first to tell you he doesn't feel like he's fit.

I never realized until this last summer that there's a difference between being thin and being fit.  Several years ago when I lost weight before there was no exercise involved.  Just food modification.  At that time in my life I wouldn't have been able to run 7.5 miles without walking the way I did back in May.

So now, after over a year of hard work, getting out of my comfort zone, I am thin.  I'm fit.

And I feel good.

But.

But I realized I'm back in that comfort zone.  I go to Body Flow (tai chi, yoga, pilates) between two and three times per week, I know the peeps in class, I ride my bike but no further than 30 miles, and I've maintained this exact weight since August.

I feel I've gotten into a bit of a rut.

So when my sister asked me to join her at Body Pump a couple of weeks ago I decided to go for it.  Why not.  Some moves, some weights.  I could do that.  Not too much out of my comfort zone but definitely using other muscles.  I liked it.

And then sweet baby sister of mine told me I needed to try Zumba.  Emily's been telling me to try it too.  Easy for these girls to say.  They've got moves.  I've got...nothin'.

Yesterday I decided to go for it.  I mean, why the heck not?

So even though I've been going to the gym for a year, yesterday felt like that first time all over again.  My stomach hurt, I was starting to sweat (and I hadn't even started working out yet!) and panic set in.  What if people made fun of me?  What if I looked like an idiot?

Screw it.

I reminded myself that at least I was doing something.  I coulda been sitting on the couch with my laptop and Oreos.  (oh, like I had been earlier in the day..)

And this is what went on.

Source: Uploaded by user via Bea on Pinterest

I went to Zumba.  I didn't have rhythm.  I looked silly.  But I was there.  Outta my comfort zone.  And I was spending time with my sister.  My sister who can shake it shake it.

All that blabber up there to say - if you aren't happy with where you are physically - do something.  Anything. No one thinks anything of newbies at the gym.  No one is thinking, "look at the fat girl."  No one cares if your shorts are riding up your thighs.

You can do it.  I promise.

Maybe you need this reminder as much as I do tonight

Source: tumblr.com via Sarah on Pinterest

Here, have my boobs. 'Cause I sure don't want 'em.

Disclaimer:

First, if talking about boobs or reading about boobs bothers you, I'd suggest now would be a good time to click the x at the top right.

Second, this isn't a pretty post.  It's open.  And it's pointless really.  I don't want you to get to the end and think, "where was her point?"  There isn't one.  I just saved you five minutes.  You're welcome. 

Third, while part of what I write in this post is flippant, I'm in no way flippant about boobs, cancer, and anything else I happen to write about in this post.  I take all of it very, very seriously.

So.  Here goes.

Back in November I had my yearly exam.  You know the one.  Where you shower and shave and prep like you're going on a first third date.  The exam that all women hate.  (I mean, I think we all hate it, right?)  And while my doc is doing my boob exam (I've mentioned before I hate the boob exam more than the other part of the exam) he tells me that they are fibrous tissue-y boobs.  Mkay.  And then he looks at my chart and sees that I have family history of breast cancer.  And that I myself have had cancer.

And he gives me a little piece o' paper that tells me to go get my breasticles checked out. 

Awesome.

Now someone else gets to touch 'em.

Even more awesome!

So that was November.  

Fast forward to two weeks ago.  I finally went in for that mammogram.  I made the appointment and the guy didn't want to do it.  "Eh, I guess.  You're just so young."

Dude. I had cancer at 26.  Let's get real.

But he scheduled it.  And for the four days before my appointment I was dreading it. 

I'd have to take off my shirt, my bra.  Exposing all my scars.  Those you can see.  

But more importantly, those you cannot.

Exposed.

While I've not had any reason to think they'd find I have cancer of the boobs, I let myself think about the what ifs.

And I know one thing.

I wouldn't be the woman who wanted to keep 'em.  I wouldn't be the woman who was sad she had to have a double mastectomy.

I'd ask where the sign up sheet was and if there was a way I could, pretty please with shooga on top, move to the front of the line?

Here.  Take 'em.  I hate them.  Loathe them.

Loathe.  Them.

Carrying around a part of me that has been an object of unwanted attention (or should it read "affection"?) since the age of nine has often been too much.

Entering high school and for my entire Freshman year had a Senior guy (someone all the girls adored, someone I would have liked to punch in the crotch) stare at them daily as we passed each other in the halls or on campus.  He even went so far as to tell me he thought they were great.  

No.  Seriously.  He said that.  And on more than one occasion.  Lucky me, huh?  The center of his (un)wanted attention.

I was so glad when he graduated.  (Though his younger brother in my class, wasn't much better.)

I don't get the fascination with them.  I don't.  They aren't big.  They aren't small.  They're just...there. 

I understand it's kind of just a guy thing to look.  I get that.  It's how they're wired.  But to stare in such a way that I notice you can't keep your eyes off 'em?  To touch what does not belong to you?

big sigh.

Is there such thing as boob donation? - take these.

So I go in for the mammogram.  I go down the hall, open the door and it's this really peaceful room and the girls smiles at me, hands me a gown and tells me to undress from waist up. Yay my fave. *eye roll*  We go over medical history, talk about my cancer, she wants to see my scar.  

I open up my "cape" as she called it.  She can see several scars. Six 1" scars and one 7" scar.  The one that hurts the most, though, is the one she can't see.

I close my gown.  We talk about how "lucky" I was to have gotten appendicitis so the doctor could find my olive sized malignant tumor.

Yeah.

Luck.

So, there I am in my cape and it's time.

Time to whip the bad girls out.  And I look down at them.  Something I rarely do.  I try not to look in the mirror after a shower or while I get dressed.

I look at them and wonder what the big deal is about 'em.

She takes one latex gloved hand and reaches down by my belly button (they hang a little low these days, what can I say?) to grab one and places it on the little shelf dealio.  I'm barely tall enough for my boob to lay on the thing.  Almost asked for a step stool.  She presses another dealio down on me, clamping me in there.  I kinda felt like I was panini.  Maybe because I was hungry I was thinking of that. 

I was really thankful that the hospital didn't use that moment to run a fire drill.

I can honestly say that woulda been one time I would not want to see men in uniform.

And then it was time to switch sides.  

And then I was done.

"You should have your results in a week."

It's now been two weeks.

So I'm thinking she meant a week per boob.

the end

(see, I told you.  no point to said post.  just a post.)

***I know some women fear getting mammograms.  If you've never had one, let me say this:  It's not that bad.  It's a little uncomfortable, I mean your boob is smashed between two plates, but it's a couple of minutes of your life that could save the rest of your life. I was in and outta that place in approximately 7 minutes.  That includes the time to undress and redress. 

tuesday thoughts...it is tuesday, right?

it's so windy right now.

it's the first day of Spring and I would love to see the sun and flowers and green grass.

and flip flops on my feet.

i made six meals yesterday but have no clue what we're eating for dinner.

i haven't had starbucks since Friday.

i fought with Josh this morning.

rather, he fought with me.

i asked a question and he answered wrong.

it was a bad school morning.

Josh showed up at lunchtime with Starbucks.  I took the drinks out of his hand and jumped on him and thanked him profusely.

he apologized for being naughty this morning.

i forgave him.

we switched rooms with our girls.  now my bedroom is 500 sq ft (you read that right) with a couch.  i most likely will never leave this room again.

i went out with Josh, my sister, Chelsea and her husband to a local bar for burgers and a beer.

or maybe that should read beers and a burger.  since i had more than one beer but not more than one burger.

though i considered it.  i was hungry.

on our way to pick up my sister i realized my dress was too low cut.  so i stripped it off and ripped out the seams and sewed 'er back up.  it was still kinda low but definitely better.

it'd been eight years since i'd been to a bar on St. Patrick's Day.  i have poor memories from that day eight years ago.  amazing that i have any memory of it, really.  but i do.

and it included jello shots (did you know there's liquor in those?  i didn't) it also included being thrown in a pool of green jello (the bar had a girls in bikinis jello wrestling competition that my friends had told me i should participate in.  they'd told me a couple weeks ahead of time to sign up.  i refused.)

but was thrown into the pool of green jello anyway.

jeans.  t-shirt.  shoes.  and all.

and then i left.  and i ran a red light.  and slammed into a dodge ram.

and wrecked my really cute Mitsubishi Lancer.

waaah.

and that is why i never in a bajillion years thought i'd go out on SPD.

but i'm a different girl than i was 8 yrs ago and i can go into a bar and know that jello shots are called shots for a reason and choose to have a beer or three instead and walk out of said bar sober.

it was a fabulous SPD with friends and I was home by 11.

last week, so randomly, i was remembering the look on my dad's face every time he saw me walk into his shop/house.  joy.  pure joy.  every single time.  and i just lost it.  i started the ugly cry.  and typing this out, i'm about to again.  to have someone be so excited to see you, every time they see you - feels amazing.  and it's been almost 13 years since i've felt that.  ugh.

since running the 5K a week and a half ago i have more range of motion in my ankle than i've had since hurting it in October.  it also pops now and hasn't done that since i hurt it.  i think those three miles were good for me.

speaking of running.  my sister and Josh and I are doing Bloomsday this year.  7.5 miles.  i'll probably end up walking it.  how can i run that far!?

for the last two Sundays we've gone to our old church.  mostly because it's 10 minutes away instead of 40 (and saves gas) but partly because our girls are involved in programs there, i go to bible study there, have friends there, etc.  We've gone to our church in Yakima for 6.5 yrs and while we absolutely love the teaching, we've never felt connected.  it's hard to go to any small groups or have friends when everything is 40 minutes away.

i'm not sure what we're doing at this point.  josh really doesn't wanna leave Calvary Chapel (where we attend now) but we really wanna be more plugged in and going to a church that's 10 minutes away, makes that much easier.  we'll see how it goes..

i had a dream last night that i took our dog to the vet and they told me that in order to keep him alive my bill would be 10 grand.  i bawled (apparently subconsciously i like the dude) and told them i couldn't afford to keep him alive and everyone in the waiting room judged me and said that if i truly loved my dog i'd open up a credit card and charge the 10 grand.

i've never been more excited for my alarm to go off than right then.

the most i've ever paid for a vet bill was $800.  ack.

we went for a bike ride on Sunday, using the new seat we bought for Spice to ride in.  it was awkward to have her on there.  i nearly fell several times.  but all in all, it was a rockin' purchase and i know we're going to use the heck out of it.

baby, you can sleep while i drive..err, ride.

sometimes i believe texting is the worst form of communication.

i'm addicted to the app Draw Something.

the end.

Current State of Disaster

This is currently what my kitchen looks like.  Today I have made three batches of tuna noodle casserole, one batch of Pioneer Woman's meatballs, a meatloaf and a lb. of taco meat.

That's six meals folks.

Have I schooled my kids or cleaned the disaster that is my house?  Not so much.

I've come up with what I'm hoping is a good meal/menu system and I wanted bare cupboards and fridge before I do my big shopping venture on Saturday.

Later this week I'll share what said system is and you can all tell me I'm nutso.  

I can handle it.

The double dog dare that ended em all

Have I ever talked to you about mine and Amber's double dog dares?  D3s if you will.

If so, sorry.

If not, still sorry.

It started several years ago when she double dog dared me to call Starbucks (or was it McDonald's?) and ask if they delivered.

And I can't remember them all but the most recent ones are as follows:

Last year about this time we started going to Body Flow together and we developed a bit of a crush on our instructor.  I double dog dared her to friend request him on FB.  He didn't know us at the time.  We were just the girls in the back who slipped out as quickly as possible.  And so she friend requested him and nothing.

Nothing.

And we had to go back to class and she had to face him.  Not that it mattered, he probably had no idea it was the girl in the back row of class that had even sent that request.

He did finally accept the request.  And we now have a fabulous friendship with him at the gym.  Whether he likes it or not, the three of us are great friends and we're much more than the girls in the back row.

Another D3 was when we went shopping in Tri-Cities and decided to go to an adult store.  Amber D3'd me to do a "check in" on Facebook so everyone would know I was there.  I did it.  And tagged her in the post.

Then there was the incident(s) before Christmas when we went shopping.  We went to Wal Mart to pick up her girls' bicycles in the layaway department.  The lady took Amber's info and left to look for the bikes.  While she was away, the phone started ringing.  And ringing.  I D3'd Amber to answer it but it quit ringing.  She thought she was off the hook.

She was wrong.

It started ringing again.  She looks around.  Answers the phone: "Layaway, this is Amber."

we totally rode those bikes thru the store & out the door.

And I busted up.  Couldn't breathe.  Died laughing.

She spent a couple of minutes on the phone with some woman before hanging up on her.  

Later, that night we were at the mall and I was buying a pair of boots at Journey's and the guy selling me the boots had a ponytail.  It was slicked back, short and it just kinda grossed me out.

She dared me to touch it.  And I couldn't do it.  I failed the D3.

Last week I met Amber at the gym for Body Flow.  I rode my bike to the gym.  We were there early (of course) and sat down to wait for our class to open up.  As I stood up to go in the room she reminded me to grab my helmet and we both just looked at it and I knew.

I knew what she was going to make me do.

"Wear it."

And so.  For an hour of yoga I looked like this:

Yep.  I wore my helmet throughout the entire class.

And now she's resigned from D3s.  She won't do anymore.

She says she won.

I say I won.  Hello, who wore the helmet?

5K Round 2

Remember last year about this time I was an idiot and decided to run my first 5K in over 14 years?

So that was me last year before my 5K.  I ran a 31:20.

A few days before this year's race I decided heck, why not?  I haven't run on my still-hurts-cramps-but-working-ankle since October but hey, let's try it out.  Let's try running three miles and see if thee ol' ankle will hold up.

I signed up.  And Josh said he'd run too.

Here we is:

Lucky Number 69 

I ran a 28:55 this year.  Beating last year's time by 2 and a half minutes.  Good but not what I'd had in mind.  Josh says my goal was a little extreme for not having run in six months but whatev.

It was fun to go out and do it again.  I wasn't nervous this time at all.  And it was cool to run with Josh.  Even though the punk coulda run another 5 miles without thinking anything of it.

He says when we're done, "I was watching this other couple run together and they looked like they were having fun.  I don't think you were having fun."

I wasn't.  I realized something while I was running.  I don't really like it.  Go figure.  I would have rather been on my bike for sure.  But I needed to prove to myself that since March of last year my body was in better condition and could move faster.

I proved it to myself.

And now I never have to run again.

Amen.

bad blogger bad wife not cool enough for actual friends bit of cray-zay

blech!

round and round lately.

for nearly a month i've been talking (to myself) about saying goodbye to This Beautiful Mess.  my little spot on the internet.

and then in recent days i've brought it up with a couple of friends and my husband.  i guess he can be considered a friend too.

usually.

anyway.

things in my bloggy land have changed so much in 5.5 years.  those blogs i started reading from the get go are pretty much a no go anymore.  waahh.

no more jeana.  no more emily.  no more cindy.  no more gayle (besides grocery cart gayle).  no more linda.

amy and kelsey and liz and antique mommy are probably the only blogs i'm still reading after these 5.5 yrs.

it's different now.

i'm different now.

they're different now.

when i brought up shuttin' this place down with amber on saturday while we were in ikea she reminded me of why i started this bad girl in the first place.

for my girls.

this space is for them.

these words.  these heart to hearts.  these successes and failures.  these memories.  these pictures.  these joys and heartaches.

all for them.

but i've lost my ooommph for being here.

i've started wanting to write other stuff.  deeper stuff.

well, not deep because hello, you know me, i'm the world's most non-deep, totally shallow, hardly a thinker kinda chick.

i'm talking about memories and thoughts and feelings and stuff that may not really be best expressed on a public blog.

i have draft after draft of stuff that i start.

and then stop.

i must always remember my audience.

friends.

family.

teens.

absolute strangers.

husband's co-workers.

other random men.

last night i was feeling, well knowing...that i'm a sucky wife.  and i had so much to say about it.  and i wanted to spout it off here.  i wanted to come here and let my fingers go crazy releasing what my heart was burdened with.

but there was this stifling feeling.  like, don't say it.  don't you say it.  because what good would come from it? what good is there in such a vent like that?  i wasn't coming here to write that out, post it and have people say that oh, no.  i wasn't that bad of a wife.  i'm too hard on myself.  josh loves me no matter what. yaddiyaddiyaddi.

i was coming here because sometimes this is the only place.  the only place to get it out.  to say that i know.  i know i suck.  don't think for one second that i don't freaking know how bad i am at this thing called wife.

and  i don't tell you all this to have anyone say that i shouldn't shut down my blog.  i've gone private.  i've deleted.  i've neglected.  i've posted daily.  i've done it all here on the blog.  i just wanted to say that if you show up here and my blog is either MIA or private, you didn't miss an invite.  the private would mean for my eyes only.  not anyone else.

i was telling josh last night that it's so weird to have people that i "know" know me.  like really know me.  know me know me.  i said, they know me but i don't know them.  and do they read because they like me or is it for the laugh (at me) and would we be friends in real life?  would they want to hang out with me?  because i don't hang out with a lot of people.  is that because they do know me and i'm someone they just wouldn't wanna hang out with?

yeah.

i started in on my insecurities.

i rock like that.

so i went from feeling like a bad wife to feeling like a freak show everyone wants to read about but never hang out with.

maybe i shouldnta quit those crazy pills so soon, huh?

mhm.

i started this post talking about the good ol' blogging days.  the days of blogging yore.  and went into my bad wife status.  to a freak out of why i have blog readers but not so much friends.

i am one awesome case of amazing random, no?

hey.

at least i finally posted something.

Wednesday Random Leap Year Edition

I'm cold.

I quit biting my fingernails again.  I think it's been over a month.  They look nice.  I painted them pink today.  I don't like pink on my fingernails but I do on my toes.

I woke up with snow in my yard this morning.  I swore under my breath.

Tonight I get to see a woman I haven't seen in nearly 20 years.  My friend Rachel from third grade (well, not just 3rd grade but that's when we met) it's her mother.  I've talked to her on the phone a couple of times over the past few days and it's so fun to hear her voice.

Spice has been so involved with school lately that I've decided to purchase the phonics curriculum for her that I used for Sugar last year.  For the longest time she could spell her name aloud.  But last week, out of nowhere, she wrote her name on a piece of paper.  I don't know if this is a big deal for a 3.5 yr old, maybe all or most 3.5 yr olds do this, but my first 3.5 yr old (Sugar) didn't even want to touch a pencil at that age.  Heck, she's 6.5 and doesn't wanna touch a pencil.  So I'm pretty stoked over it and while she's loving it, I'm going to encourage it like crazy.

We had a pretty crazy windstorm in our area last week and because of it some people had trees fall over.  Josh and I were presented with the opportunity to take care of one such tree.  When I was a kid (3rd grade, with best friend Rachel, mentioned above) I spent time at Rachel's grandma's house.  I remember loving that place.  Her grandma's tree uprooted itself last week, and after over 20 years, I find myself back at that house.  The tree is about 50 years old, so she's rather large.  My girls have enjoyed playing in the large yard, while Josh and I have enjoyed working side by side cutting up the tree.

Rick Santorum will be in Tri-Cities tomorrow and I'm thinking of going to hear/see him.  Ron Paul was here a coupla Fridays ago but I had company that day and didn't get up to hear him speak.

I just looked down and realized I have melted chocolate on my jeans.  How any chocolate missed my mouth is beyond me.

Speaking of chocolate, I told Josh the other day that I was giving up candy bars until I'd lost 10 lbs*.  Yeah, I lasted two days.

*I don't need or necessarily want to lose 10 lbs but heck, if that could happen, rock on.


This Saturday is a day that I'm sure will provide much blog material for next week.

Our tax return is going to pay off my medical bills instead of buying the cow we'd originally planned on.  People who were freaking out over us having farm animals can now breathe a sigh of relief.

I'd much rather have a cow than pay off medical bills but I'm going to be a grown up for once and be responsible.

But I'll be wishing I were buying a cow instead.  With chickens.

And a pig or 7.

The Beth Moore bible study that I've been going to is almost over.  Last week's lesson was about talking bad about our brothers and sisters in Christ.  Wow.  Wow.  


I love a good cuppa french press.

I also love my new tattoo.  She makes my heart happy.

So you know how we have a crew of peeps we cycle with and how they're currently mountain biking and not road biking?  Well, they are.  And I hate it.  I don't like mountain biking.  Maybe I would had the first ride out not ended up with my leg looking like this:

Well anyway, yesterday Doc showed up at my house yesterday and before he leaves he grabs his iPhone and says, "what's the weather supposed to be like on Saturday?"  So we both look at our phones and realize it's not going to be too shabby.  He asks if I want to road bike on Saturday.  Heck yes I do!  I told him I wasn't sure though, that I needed to talk to Josh.  Told him I'd text him later about it.  So I did.  And his reply, "okay, for you, at the office at 8."  YAY!  My heart is happy!

So before the fun of my Saturday (it's time with Amber) I'll get to road bike.

Here's hoping I don't get hit by any cars.

Frustrated. Thankful.

Last Friday I went into the billing office for the hospital where I have all my surgeries.

All being three.

I hadn't received a bill, just statement after statement.

After statement.

I had been in contact with the billing office right before my surgery, setting up a payment plan since I'd had 2 CT scans done (one abdominal and then one for my ankle back in Oct) along with a ton o' blood work and some other junk.  Even with my insurance, my account was getting bigger and bigger.  There wasn't any way I could just write a check for the whole deal.

So we set up that payment plan.  It was about $150 per month (for the rest of my life) and while that seemed like quite a chunk, it was definitely something we could swing.

Fast forward a coupla months to last Friday.  I realize I didn't get a bill for February and wanted to know what the deal was so I went in.

"Well, your account balance has increased."  (previous payment plan was based pre-surgery)

"So we need to adjust your payment plan amount."

Ugh.

What used to be $150 a month is now $300 per month.

Ugh.

"And we'll need a payment today."

Fo realz?!

I'm frustrated.  With me.  For not having a savings built up enough to just pay my balance in full.

Thankful.  For insurance. For not having a car payment or credit cards that I have to pay on monthly, because if I did, I definitely wouldn't be able to afford $300 per month.  I don't know how we're going to do it as it is but I know we wouldn't if we had those other expenses.

Really hoping 2012 is hospital visit free.

So there was this one time I got hit by a car

True story.

And since I am alive and well to tell about it, I will.

And we can laugh at me.

And my stupidity.

On Saturday night I got this brilliant idea to ride my bike to church.

Our church is approximately 35 miles from our house.  I figured I could make it in 3 hours.

What I didn't figure in is that at the time I wanted to leave (6 am) it's still dark.  I have no reflective gear or flashy lights or anything like that so I waited a little longer for the sun to come up.  I left the house about 6:30 and made my way to church on the highway.

At what I figured was my half-way mark I stopped my bike, checked my phone for the time and called Josh to let him know where I was.  I also took a drink of water.  Because I have to stop my bike to take a drink.  Hey, I dye my hair blonde and apparently me drinking water whilst riding my bike is a bit like a blonde trying to chew gum and walk at the same time.

I just can't do it.

It was 8 when I called Josh.  I knew I wouldn't make it to church on time.  We had to be there at 9 to work in the nursery.  I was mad.  Had I been able to leave at 6 I would have been on time.

So I'm pedaling.  And pedaling some more.

There's a small stretch where I had to get on the freeway (talk about intimidating) and cross a bridge that has very little shoulder.  Josh had told me I'd have bust my butt across that bridge.  I'm getting close to the bridge when Josh and the girls drove by me.

"Oh, please God, let him pull over."  I was tired.  And still had probably 6 miles or so to go.  I took the off ramp, went over another bridge and there he was, waiting at the bottom of the hill for me.

Hallelujah.

All that to get to the night I was hit by a car...

So the next day, Monday, I decided to ride to the gym.  Josh got home early and I knew I could make it to the gym before dark.

What I didn't count on is that my legs would be DEAD from my 31 mile ride the day before.

When I bike to the gym I'm usually cruising around 15 mph.  I was seeing 12 mph.  It was miserable.  My legs just weren't moving like they usually do.

I get into town and there's a stretch when I first enter Prosser that I can cruise at about 22-24 mph for a bit, it's a little downhill and I've usually gotten my second wind.  Yeah, this night?  Not so much.  I was lucky to hit 14-15 mph.  So, I'm behind schedule, and it's dark.

I look to my right to see if there's a car on the highway I'm about to cross.  I see a Suburban and realize if it pulls up to the stop sign far enough, I can glide behind it just fine and not have to stop.

I'm running late!

So the Suburban is in my mind.  I look ahead of me and see more cars, all of which I think are heading straight, and not realizing that one is actually in the left turn lane.  Suburban pulls up far enough that I can ride behind her, I'm about to cross when I realize that a small car is in the left turn and will be turning into me before I get across.

Slow motion.

Thankfully she wasn't driving very fast.  Thankfully there was no one coming from the other direction.

I knew she was going to hit me.  There was no way for me to move any faster.  And had I stopped she would have hit me much harder.

I yelled to God.  Out loud.  I can't remember exactly what I said but I'm pretty sure the word, "help!" was in there somewhere.

She came to a stop.  Against my bike.  She didn't even hit me hard enough to knock me over.  It jarred my bike and pushed me but I was able to stay on.  I clipped out of my pedals, stopped my bike and she stopped her car.  She opened the door and at the same time we asked if the other was okay.

We both were.

And we carried on.

I called Josh right away and said something like this, "Honey, I'm fine, I was just hit by a car but I'm fine."

Him:  silence.

Me:  I'm okay, just wanted to let you know.  Can you pick me up after the gym?

Him:  Um, no.  Let me come get you now.

We argued about that.  I wasn't going to let a little bump keep me from the gym.  I got there 10 minutes late for class and could not concentrate.  I finally ended up sending him a text during meditation to come get me.

My bike has a scratch.

I do not.

I'm a lucky chick.

It coulda been a whole lot worse, especially because I foolishly went without a helmet that night.

I won't be stupid like that again.

So yeah, there was this one time I got hit by a car.  Good conversation starter.  Or blog material.

The things I do for your entertainment.

The Tattoo

I got it.

A coupla Fridays ago.

My sister made the appointment for me with the guy who did one of her tattoos.

He's located in the mall.  When I found out that part I was wondering if Claire's had added tattoos to their ear piercing section.

I could just see the sign outside the door:

"Buy one pair of glittery, heart shaped earrings and get a tattoo for half price!"

That wasn't the case.  Thank God.

But before my appointment time I had to figure out what I wanted.  I still hadn't decided on which bike to get or where to put it.

I showed Josh the pictures and he fiercely hated them both.  Which I didn't realize until just a coupla hours before I went in. Niiiice.  He kept pointing out all the flaws on both bikes.  Saying they didn't even look like real bikes, etc.

I realized he had a point.

So I decided to print off a picture from REIs website of my bike and have the guy just do a basic outline of that.

I considered adding the spokes in (that was one thing I didn't like about Bike B) but if I was going to make the bike look completely realistic I'd have to add 28 spokes to each wheel and then that would just be a very busy bicycle.  So I opted out of the spokes and did outline instead.

Megan took pictures for me.  It's what a good sister does.

In her driveway. About to get the party started.

"Hurry, I gotta watch the road!"

A "before" picture of my calf.

I look nervous but wasn't really.  Excited, yes!

Aaron, Mall Tattoo Artist and Sarcasm Extraordinaire 

He wanted to know where I wanted the tattoo.  When I told him I wanted it on my calf he asked why I'd want it there.  I said, "where else would I put it, my forehead?"  His reply, "well, do you even ride bikes?"  Me, "duh, if I didn't would I put it there?"  Him, "look, I work in the mall, you wouldn't believe what people put on their bodies and where."  Me, "well, it just so happens I do ride bikes.  So there."  And that was the end of that convo.  (neener neener)


And the finished product.

The first question I always get asked is, "did it hurt?"  Not so much, no.  It stings at first, just a little.  The worst part is that I am terribly ticklish on my calves.  So, when he'd have to dab at the blood and ink I would move my leg because he was tickling me so bad!  

This is kinda how the process would go.

Bzzzzz sound.  Stop.  Dab.  I'd kick my leg.

Him: Stop moving!

Me: Then stop tickling me!

Lather, rinse, repeat.

The whole process took about 30 minutes.  He did an awesome job and I could not be happier with the work he did.  Plus, he was just a good time.  And Megan was a good time.  She's always a good time.

If/when I decide on another tattoo (I kinda already have something in mind) (don't tell Josh) I'll be going back to Aaron, the mall tattoo artist.

It happened so fast

Sunday we took a little road trip to Bend, OR.

We stopped at a gas station to use the restroom but it was occupied forever so we drove across the street to Wal Mart.  I'd shudder here but it's Wal Mart in Bend.  Not Wal Mart of my town so there was no need to shudder.

As we leave, Sugar wants to start running in the parking lot(!?) and I quickly told her that wasn't a good idea.  She slows down and is about a step in front of me, so close in fact I nearly stepped on her heels.  We are two cars away from our van when a Subaru Legacy starts to back out.

I immediately threw my body against Sugar's, slamming her into our van and I just stayed there for a second.  I turned around and saw a wide-eyed teenage girl.  She'd braked and just stayed put.  Both of us were freaked out.  My first response as a mama (or any protective human being) was to be angry but I could see in this girl's eyes she didn't mean to, she honestly just didn't see my little girl.

She rolled down her window and could hardly get her words out.

"I'm so...I'm so sorry.  I just didn't...see her."

I told her everything was fine.  I gave her a reassuring smile and put Sugar in the van.

Then I got in my seat and I lost it.  All the what ifs started playing in my mind.

But none of the what ifs matter.  Sugar's safe and for that, this mama is thankful.

this is when

My dad had the same birth date as Josh.

So on their birthday I'm usually busy preparing a birthday party for Josh to think about how my dad would be 50+ yrs old this year.

I used to be a wreck on the anniversary of his drowning.  But after some long overdue (like 11 yrs overdue) counseling I didn't cry on the anniversary.  Plus, on the last anniversary I spent that day with friends.

My days used to be spent thinking of him everyday.  For years.  I don't think that's normal but I've never claimed to be.

Through counseling though - I learned that it was okay to grieve.  I learned how to grieve.  And I healed.  Through healing I found a peace.  And through that peace I didn't have to think about him daily and live with regrets.

But it's on this day.

On Valentine's Day that I think of him.

When I was nine he started sending carnations.  Some years the note would read, "From, Mark" or, "Love, Mark" or, even bolder, "Love, Your Dad."

At 17 I received - for the last time - carnations and a little bear.  That year the card was, "Love, Your Dad."  Maybe because he knew I was getting closer to feeling comfortable calling him that (though I never did.)  The Valentine's after I turned 18 I was married and I wonder if he just didn't feel it was his place anymore to give me anything.

I don't know.

I do know that he made the day special for me - even if I didn't like carnations ;)  It was nice to know someone was loving on me and thinking of me.

My goal is to provide those happy memories for my girls.

Minus the carnations, of course.

My inner Valentine's Day struggle...that's no longer inner but uh, outter.

Source

Valentine's Day is coming up.

Did you just groan, too, or was that just me?

I'm not a fan of this "holiday" at all.

It's not really one that we acknowledge in this household.

But this year I've been seeing some fun stuff on Pinterest and wondered if maybe I shouldn't be such a Valentine's Day Scrooge.

I have two oh so sweet little girls that deserve to be loved on on this day.  I've struggled, though.  Do I make a big to do about Valentine's Day for my girls every year? Build it up, make it special - only to have them one day have a husband who's kinda "meh" toward the day?

I don't want their expectations of Valentine's Day to be too high.  But I feel like a schmuck saying that.  I mean I should want their expectations to be high, right?  Um, but not too high.  Just high enough.

A perfect amount of expectation.

I'm sure there isn't such a thing.

I just know that I've had too high of expectations about the day.  For a long time Valentine's Day was a big let down.  It took a whole lot of years but I no longer have any expectations of the day and am no longer disappointed.  February 14th is just like February 13th or August 2nd or December 1st.

But I want it special for my girls while they are under my roof.  And when they are adults, I think I'll continue to make it special for them until they have someone to do it for them.

*this is not a bash on Valentine's Day or the lack of celebrating that goes on in our house for it.  Josh and I have an unspoken understanding that this is just a regular day and we're cool with it.  

Write that down

I always think I'll remember the funny things my kids say, but dangit, I don't remember half the funny stuff that comes out of their mouths.  So I'm going to try to start blogging them as quickly as they happen so that it's written down somewhere.

Sugar has been going through a growth spurt (again) and is constantly hungry.

My girls eat breakfast around 8 and I offer a snack at 10 with lunch at noon.

At 10 this morning the girls each had a banana.

Half an hour ago Sugar says she's hungry.

surprisesurprise.

I told her it wasn't lunch time yet.

Sugar - "Kids die without food, you know!?"

Me - "Yes, I know. But you're still not getting any food until lunch."

Sugar - "Then, Goodbye, World!"

Someone has a flare for the dramatic lately.

And I've no clue where she got that from.

homeschoolish update

We're using Explode the Code to help teach Sugar to read.

It's working marvelously.

She's reading.

Now to work on fluency.

Handwriting is a big deal to me.  It just is.  I like handwriting.  I like to be able to read other's handwriting.  I want my kids to have not only legible handwriting but handwriting that is nice to look at.

Sugar pretty much could not care less.

All of last school year (you know, the 6 days of it that we did) (kidding, there were more days than that) I had Sugar using the rubber pencil grip because she held her pencil all wonky.  It helped her to hold her pencil properly but her handwriting was horrid.

(in my critical handwriting opinion)

One day early on in this school year we couldn't find the pencil with the rubber grippy dealio so she went without it.  Her grip on her pencil is still wonky but her handwriting without the rubber grippy dealio is so much better!

I prefer the handwriting to look nice over how she holds her pencil.

We quit doing Math back in...oh...October.  We were struggling.  She was.  I was.  We were.  So at the advice of some veteran homeschoolin' mamas I quit.  Let her do it on her own.  And this week I finally decided to get our Math books back out (we're using Singapore) and she has blown through about two weeks worth of lessons in two days.  It's like it's clicked for her.  Or maybe it was the M&Ms I decided to use for a manipulative that made it more fun...

Science is us going to the library and Sugar picking a book.  Never fails that it's some sort of sea creature.  She loves dolphins and whales.  I haven't been super structured on her science.  We had been using our  Sonlight curriculum from last year for science but she was sooo not into learning about clouds and tornadoes and rain.  So we've bagged that for now.

Emphasis on for now.  I don't want you guys thinkin' she'll never learn about that stuff.  She will.  But one thing I'm learning about my kiddo, when she's into learning about something, she's into it.  Absorbs it.  Loves it.  Right now it's sea animals.  So we're going with that.

History is something we're just kinda pluggin' away at.  I admit that I think she'd be way more into it if I was on the ball about doing the projects listed in the book.  Sometimes they just require a whole lotta supplies that I don't have or want to mess with buying.  I know.  Lazy.  But the projects make the words come to life, so I need to just suck it up and go to...WalMart.  *shudder*

Spice sits right along side us and works in her own little books.  She asked the other day to be taught to read.    I just need to do it.  She's showing interest and that's like 90% of the battle.

Overall I feel that we're doing well this year.  The main thing Josh and I were concerned about for first grade was teaching Sugar to read.  Anything over and above we considered a bonus.

So, that's our update.  Sorry if some of it was a repeat from last time.  I can't remember if I posted an update or if it's in draft.  I didn't look.

Questions?  I'm sure someone's got'em.

More on the Tattoo

Pretty sure I'm going with Tattoo A.

And I'm thinking it'll go on my right leg just above my ankle.

More input from you.

Should I include words underneath the bike?

If so, what?

Or should I leave it plain?

The big day is coming soon.

Tattoo Ideas...Vote NOW {not that the voting really matters but it's still fun, right?}

So, I'm in the process of deciding on my next tattoo.  I have a couple of different ideas that I'm going to share.

Let me know which one you like best.  A or B.

A)

Source: tatt.ly via Sarah on Pinterest

OR

B)

Source: flickr.com via Sarah on Pinterest

Also, can't decide on placement.  I like both locations pictured.

Rando-Random

Got a text this morning from my friend Chelsea.  She had her baby early this morning.  The tiny babe (5 lbs) has no middle name.  So of course I suggested using my middle name.  Rhett Lee.  It sounds good right?!

And how fabulous is the name Rhett?  I love it.  I can't wait to squeeze him and hear all the birthing details.  I love birth stories.

And giving birth.

Yes, I'm that weird girl (so is Amber) who loves, absolutely loves to give birth.  My body was good at it.

I got up at 5:15 this morning with Josh and Jim (our live-in for the next couple of months).  This morning was the first morning since he's been here that I've gotten up.  I'm just so bad at mornings.  I sat at the table doing my Beth Moore study while the men folk talked.  I love listening to them.  It's so nice having Jim here.  Josh has a running partner and I have one more man to make fun of and cook for.

Have I ever mentioned how much we love to have company?  It's our fave.  A couple Saturdays ago my side of the family came over for dinner and games.  We had 19 people here and I just couldn't get enough. (I would also like to say that I fed all 19 of us for $14.50.  That's 76 cents per plate.)  We had so much fun.  My sister and I were dancing (she's got moves!) We played cards.  My aunt and uncle's dog laid on the table. And after Spice used the potty, the other 18 of us cheered for her when she came out of the bathroom.

Good times.

When Amber and I started going to yoga and body flow last year we placed ourselves in the back.  Well, it's been a year and we're still in the back row.  It's easier for us to get away with our inappropriate comments back there and if we screw up our moves, we're the only ones to know.  Well.  WELL.  Last night she couldn't come and when I got to class MY SPOT WAS TAKEN!  I had to be in the very front.  ALONE.
And next to the mirror!  I hate the mirror!  Some women stare at themselves in that thing the entire time.  I avoid it like the plague!

Also.  And this as random as random can be, I learned last night that a thong to the gym is the only way to go.  The undergarments I wore last night were CREEPING.  And seeing as how I was IN THE FRONT ROW, it was a little difficult to pull out my wedgie the entire time.  Talk about uncomfortable.

Just got a text from Chelsea.  She went without an epidural and in her words "had to be tough like you."  So proud!

Josh and I have made plans for our 14th wedding anniversary.  We're going to Utah to ride our bikes!  Last year Josh went to Butte, MT with the crew we ride with on Saturdays.  This year we're going to Utah.  First stop will be Boise and then on to Ogden.  I'm excited that I get to go this year, that we get to go together.

Yesterday it was fairly warm.  The sun was out.  My kids ran outside with no coats. Socks or shoes.  And played in the mud.  I love, absolutely love that about my girls.  Spice is daintier with her mudding, but Sugar would roll in it if I'd let her.  Which I would, on a warmer day.  Heck, I'd join her.

Sending my taxes off to my friend, Kristie today.  Our refund will be spent in the weirdest way.  Looking forward to telling you about it.

Okay, that's enough randomness from my life.

What's random in yours?

It's time for the reward

On my journey to get healthy and lose weight, I decided that should I reach my goal (which I did) I'd buy myself a fancy shmancy pair of jeans from my fave store as a reward.  A good job, Sarah, present.

I've been at the same weight for nearly 6 months, I don't think I'll be losing much more.

I think it's time to buy those jeans.

But I want to make a day of it.

You see, I've reached my one year anniversary of this whole deal and I wanna celebrate.

I've decided I'mma get myself a babysitter, get my hair did, go shopping for those jeans and get myself another tattoo.

Oh, and buy myself lunch.

Because I like food.

This is going to be an expensive day.  Maybe I should sell that dog bed, huh?

The Expensive {but worth it!} Dog Bed

About five years ago I bought a down comforter and duvet cover from Overstock.  The two items cost $300.  It was pretty and it was cozy.  But it was too warm.

But every winter I still pull it out thinking that this will be the year we can stand to have it on our bed.  This winter was no different.  I pulled it out, we used it for three nights and the sweating was just too much.

So I threw it on the floor, thinking I'd take it to its bin downstairs at another time.

Remember when I vlogged about Ace sleeping in our bed and getting up in the night more often than a newborn?

Well.  He no longer sleeps in our bed.  Or gets up to pee in the night.  It's fantastic and I feel refreshed in the morning.  I no longer want to send him to "the farm" the way I once did.

No more Beagle paws stretching out on me in the night.  Or whimpers to go out.

Because Ace, he loves that down comforter.  It's his BFF.  He snuggles up in it and we don't hear from him all night.

It may seem ridiculous to let a dog sleep on a $300 bed but for a full night of sleep without dog breath in my face or his paws in my back or getting up three times a night to let him out, it's worth every penny.

Oh yes it is.